Friday, June 30, 2006

llama drama

Oh she looks all innocent now, but one second before she was smacking those pups.

Llama, up close and personal!

The ruins of Machu Picchu!

hello from aguas caliente, aka Machu Picchu according to the mayor. just trekked around the ruins. don´t really have any concept of how to integrate them into my understanding of the modern world, but will post impressive pictures as soon as possible. also had close encounter with a llama that was really less interested in me than I was in it. lots of terraces stoned off for agriculture, small room-like areas that were maybe houses, and various plazas and watch towers. we traveled there and back from the train on Mercedes Benz buses, very posh, but i didn´t particularly notice the vehicle much because i pretty much immediately fell asleep like i do in every moving vehicle. the train ride up was also very nice, with a breakfast of ham sandwhich (in so much abundance on transportation), fruit, and strawberry shortcake. the baƱos was also quite servicable. the tracks ran along a rocky river at the foot of tall green mountains. it made me think about what americans do with some mountains, cordon them off to build trails for shuttle buses and campsites. but with how large our human population is how can we interact with nature without destroying it? nature is then by nature so unnatural. how much better is it to take an Orient Express train to see it? No se.

On one of the train stops I caught a photo of a girl with two puppies, the bigger of the puppies whose neck she would yank at and whose head she would periodically whack. Ah, au naturale.

Thursday, June 29, 2006

mi manos can´t keep up with where i am

Cusco flags; not the gay flag, as a waiter pointedly told us.

Hello from Cusco, Peru! Hmm, yes, behind in updating about the mid-transatlantic driving adventure so I shall recap as thus. Camped out in Zion and Bryce. It is so hot in the desert even at high elevations. It was of much hotness yet sunscreen worked marvelously. Had great time with friends, catching up and bonding and hopping from tent to motels. Visited Yosemite only for a peek. Stepped out of car to take pictures of waterfall and were marauded by elephantine mosquitoes like out of a scene from Hatchet. The valley was, as my friend called it, a zoo. There was a mini shopping center that had shopping carts. There was an art studio for taking art classes. An Ansel Adams gallery. A car garage. Too much. And home again to California to spend some mad dash quality time with the sister.

And mad dash again from airplane to airplane, mini sandwhich to mini sandwhich, until I am here sitting in an internet cafe with a 2.5 liter waterbottle in my bag sitting next to my friend who is waiting for me to finish this so we can go grab some lunch and sleep the afternoon away before a 6am train ride to Macchu Pichu. It´s a mad house, this life of mine.

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

one wedding and 4 states

Hello from Mount Carmel, Utah. I am much chagrinned that I am unable to post my pics thus far up, but perhaps in a few days. I just attended a friend's wedding three days ago (a wedding that perfectly fit the personalities of my now wedded friends: bbq reception followed with an anime viewing). Got to see long-missed friends in Austin and camp out in an apartment complex that I used to live in. Found out that my travel route coincided with that of the newlyweds and so my friend and I are traveling with them and their visiting German friend. We made our way through Texas (long hot drive, much hills, then dry flatnessw, and scrubby vegetation, and many moo-moos), then New Mexico (beautiful mesas and goats and horses and metalwork and irrigation line/mobiles), and Arizona (gorgeous mountains and canyons, Hopi reservation with small houses and many school buses, postcard scenery in real time, layers of prehistoric sea history written on the walls), and Utah, which we hit at night and so there is not much to tell yet. We intended to camp at the North Rim of the Grand Canyon but we were thwarted by a forest fire that was smoking out the roads. So that is why we are in Utah outside of Zion National Park. Eee. More to report as the world turns. Thankfully did not kill any bunnies though they certainly displayed suicidal tendancies by running into the road in front of myh cart and parking their fuzzy butts.

Friday, June 16, 2006

Living la vida loca

Ah, happy to report that Grandmother is feeling much better. She's settled in a new hospital in downtown Houston for rehab, a hospital that even has a staff person from Fu Zhou! And her room is enormous, with sofas and accent tables with lamps and dressers and an extra bed for visiting family members. My grandmother's suicidal requests have decreased and will hopefully piddle out altogether once she gets walking some more.

I will also update the "new words" and "books" section once I get back from Peru/Guat/Belize/Mexico and don't have to suffer the stiffling confines of a dial-up connection that burns out when the day gets too hot. Will add Shalimar the Clown by Rushdie (excellent book! read it; i liked it even more than Midnight's Children) and From the Dust Returned by Bradbury (which was like a string of his previous short stories, some of which I have read so it was like reading a book I've read before).

Ah, my sis is getting into Houston today for a one day mad visit of family and grandmother and something for Father's Day and prepping for friend's wedding in Austin... Ahh. Much will be the travels that will soon be commencing, including a transcontinental (well semi-) drive-a-thon from Austin to Berkeley. Aii, I will not be in one place for long.

Saturday, June 10, 2006

we all get at least one blogpost of abject desperation

The last two nights I have spent in cold hospital rooms, trying my best to sleep curled in frigid rooms against gauzy, sterile pillows. My presence there had nothing to do with and injury of mine but rather my grandmother’s. Wednesday afternoon I drew my sister out for a late afternoon walk. Strangely, my grandmother had not yet started dinner and it was seven o’clock. Then we saw her in the driveway, sitting on the ground. She had lost her balance and suddenly sat down, her left hip screaming in pain with every moment. She asked me to try to lift her up, and foolish me I did try, but thankfully had little strength. My sense kicked in and I called 911.

Thus began the sequence. Ambulance – emergency room – x-rays (and the wails and face contortions of pain pain pain) – cries for a catheter that fell on irritated and overworked ears of the perpetually unavailable nurses – and the first sleepless night in a cold chair. The next day surgery – a replacement hip socket – ICU – a second sleepless in a cold hospital chair punctuated by hourly doses of medication and blood tests. And it’s over. The worst of it, I hope, is over. If she can walk again and feel useful then she will possibly beat back the looming threat of dementia. If she can still get around and see people, she will shoo away the dogs of depression that nip at her tired legs and weakened heart. I think she will be ok.

Being home I sink into a stupor of lost identity. I’m not who I am anymore and can think of escape as the only recourse for regaining my selfhood. But escape gives me no peace because my absence is always physical. My empty room. That space in the house that will not be changed or filled. All my possessions there. My dad teasing my older sister about moving into one of our rooms and her refusal because those rooms mean that we will come back. The tether is long: it stretches for thousands of miles across states, mountains, and canyons. And it tugs on me and tells me, “You will never escape. You will always belong to place where you cannot be. You can be yourself in other places and talk with other people but you will not belong to them because you will always belong to me.” And I’m snapped back and I stuff myself deeper down to hide, for when I can escape again and unfold my unused voice and my rusty mind. And pretend that I am free and that the tether will not again pull me back. Because obligation is stronger than love. Because obligation is not love. One can coexist with the other but so too can obligation exist without love. Have we confused the two?

Wednesday, June 07, 2006

No-No the sexually molested baby seal

My older sister likes to listen to children's song and story tapes and most recently she has been listening to the tape of No-No the Seal. It is a story about a baby seal that is molested by his Uncle Seal. He tries to run away in the ocean and is scared to tell his parents, but with guidance from his friend Wise Whale he is able to tell. I remember years ago when my mom got this book and tape for my sister. I read the book and was shocked. I wasn't sure if my mom had read the story before getting the tape. The book had a picture of a fuzzy seal on the cover after all. But as unconfortable as the story is, Uncle Seal's voice is of a guffawing grandpa, perhaps the story's message is one that suggests a more appropriate response for children, for as the Neil Gilbert says, children should not be responsible for defending themselves. But I can't quite get over the weirdness of a sexually molested baby seal.

My sister's favorite song on the tape is his reflective/confliced song.

My world is falling down;
My heart is broken and sad.
When Uncle Seal's around,
I feel mixed up; I feel scared!
He is my special friend.
Why did he touch me that way?
I don't want to hurt Uncle Seal
Or make Mom and Dad bark and yell,
But this very funny feeling that I feel
Is worse because he told me not to tell.
Yes, it's worse because Uncle told me not to tell!

Tuesday, May 30, 2006

one in 12 Americans...

...owns an RV. Is that right? I hear that off of an infomercial about luxury RV parks.

But this is what new thing I have learned since being home in Houston. I have to fight the urge to slump onto the couch in front the tv, which I haven't had exposure to for months, and turn off my brain. I don’t know what to do with myself. I am a kid here and I am never allowed to forget it. I dug out the old rusted bikes in our garage and my dad pumped up the tires. When I told him that I intended to ride around in the street my dad said no, you will get hurt. When my grandmother asked me to help her with a weed-turned-tree, I thought she was carrying a hatchet for me to use to chop it down. No, I would only hurt myself. I don’t know what I’m doing. I was there to watch her hack it up and then drag what was left away. I am told constantly that I am too young, unable, not experienced enough, when I know this not to be true and yet there is no way that I can express my ideas or abilities because at home I might as well still be in middle school. But the sadness is there: the soft intonation that I have been long missed. Why did you go away for so long? When are you coming back to stay?

I can’t. I will be here for three weeks but I can’t live where my life is not my own. And that breaks my heart.

So instead I keep house. And clean. I gave my sister a bath and cut her fingernails. I washed her bathtub and sink. I helped my grandmother install a safety rail on the edge of the tub. I helped her label her video discs. I helped thread the sewing machine. I helped my dad pay the bills. I sweep the floors. I packed up all the newspapers for recycling.

And the aquarium. When I was home last in the winter, I was felt so sorry for our turtle. The filter to its tank had long stopped working and it swam in a half evaporated tank of filthy water. No one had time to look out for Mr. Munchie. My older sister and I took it to a pond in a golf course down in Herman Park (I was intimidated by all the mothers with children at the pond outside the zoo) and set Mr. Munchie free. Well, as free as a pond in the middle of golf course in the middle of the huge urban metroplex can be. How can we keep you when you cannot have clean water and care? So, this bilgy tank has stayed as it was since we let loose Mr. Munchie on the world. A film of fuzzy white stuff was new though. I took the whole operation down, washed out the filter, cleaned the marbles, scooped out the water, scrubbed down the tank, and sanded the rusting stand. Tomorrow I'll paint the stand and get some filter cartidges. I think I'll move our sadly neglected fish from their five gallon tank to this big one. But should anything or anyone really be confined to small spaces? Could you make it outside the box that keeps you safe? Will you still know who you are? Tell me Mr. Munchie, do you miss me?

Tuesday, May 23, 2006

i like bike

Today I rode a bike for the first time! Yes, this was my secret disability. I could not ride a bike. But that changed today. It was both exhilarating and utterly terrifying, but with about ten minutes of my friend holding the bike and running with me made me feel that I could do it. And...I did. Wow! So this is the bliss of cycled mobility. Granted, I'm not great at it. I still freak out when cars come and then tend to almost fall into bushes, but I could do it. I can ride straight and turn corners! Now, I just need a more developed method of braking that doesn't involve me stumbling sideways or into parked cars. Yosh!!!!!

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Ich liebe Sommer! I also went with my friend to the Stanford campus and walked all about. We stopped in the art library to browse through the Soetheby's and Christie's art catalogues. I also got some swanky orange tennis shoes. I bleed burnt orange. On my feet. (Ooo, like space cadette's orange pea coat...)

Monday, May 22, 2006

Summer Daze

Kickin' it in Palo Alto with an Austin bud. Feels funny to be out of Berkeley, a place that has so occupied my mind and soul the past few months. Packed up my apartment in a day and zipped all my belongings to my sister's place in Sacramento. The separation from the b-town get-a-long still yet to hit. And the languor of summer creeps up apace as the sun shines over the South Bay.

In preparation of the Latin Amer. Adventure, decided to read books by writers from the countries to be visited. So far this includes

1) Peru - Mario Vargas Llosa, The Real Life of Alejandro Mayta
2) Mexico - Octavio Paz, The Labyrinth of Solitude: Life and Thought in Mexico
3) Guatemala - Rigoberta Menchu - The Girl from Chimel
4) Belize - ?

If you have any suggestions for further necessary reading before entering these countries - for emotional and intellectual understanding and connection - please let me know. I think I may end up doing a lot of reading on the beaches after the sun has sizzled away my epidermis.

Monday, May 15, 2006

ummm

I noticed that I hadn't really posted anything in the last few days, though I still get visits. So let's see...what is something interesting and worth reading...

I went to the graduation for all the second-year MSW students. For some reason it was downright thrilling to see all the graduating students get hooded and march across stage and smile and know that they're schooling is over. I'm terrified that I will be one of those people in a year, but I'm absolutley looking forward to the ceremony and regalia and everything, which is strange for me because I usually despise all the gown and marching crap.

As a volunteer I was stationed to work with the caterer lady and help set everything up for the reception. Donning an apron, two classmates and I found ourselves being the slave monkeys of this woman as she snapped at us for laying out the wrong napkins, chewed us out for bringing the wrong spoons, and generally mistreated us. Very interesting. There was also a protest scheduled that day to occur outside the hall where the ceremonies were taking place. UC employees are paid significantly less than workers in community colleges. So we were all a bit troubled about crossing a pickett line to help at a graduation--it turned out that our scheduled speaker cancelled in respect of the workers and so the protest/strike didn't even happen. But anyway, the caterer was complaining about workers violating contracts and not doing good work and then whining about it and causing trouble with unions and everything. I was like, "Does she know that she's catering for social workers?" Anyway, it was a very interesting evening overall.

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And now I am continuing my library hopping as I endeavor to complete my last assignment, due Tuesday. Let's see what libraries I have been to already:

- Doe Library (Main)
- Mofffit Undergrad Library
- Music Library
- Educational Psychology Library
- Environmental Design Library
- Public Health Library
- Optometry Library
- East Asian Library (a particularly beautiful one)
- Law Library
- and right now in Ethnic Studies Library.

Oh the wonders of La Biblioteca!

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

O the terror, the suffering, for all the world to see, the worst terror that ever met my eyes.

This is day one of wearing hard contact lenses. Ouch. I can't stop blinking. My eyes keep screaming at the irritation, but it is getting better, or so I tell myself. I was starting to worry at bit while at the optometrist because when I tried to squeeze the contact lense out with my eyelids it kept drifting away and getting lodged in the corners of my eye. Ack. Putting them in is not so bad though. When I went to get myself fittend I had to settle on hard contacts. Why? Because the aperture or my eyes are too small. When the optometry student working with me pulled out a soft contact to try on me I almost freaked out. It was so big! There was no way it was going to fit in my eye. I read a comic strip once (done my a dude who makes comics of dreams that they submit to him). A girl dreamed that she woke up and went to put on her contacts only to find that the lenses were the size of her face. This is how I felt. After multiple tries and even trying out a smaller lense, the student busted out the hard lenses. Which aren't horrible. Everyone I talk to explains how the hard are better for your eye, especially in correcting astigmatism, which I have. I don't think I really prepared myself though for the change in my appearance. What will it be like to not wear glasses all the time. How will people perceive me? Differently now that I am not bespecled? Is it true that guys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses? Still waiting for answers.

Friday, May 05, 2006

A first year come...and almost gone

I can't believe that I am almost done with my first year of graduate school in social work. Half done! It does not feel so long ago that I first climbed the steps of Haviland, extremely nervous and excited to be at Berkeley. So confused about social work. And convinced that someone must have mixed up applications in admitting me to the school because there was no way that I was in the same league as the amazingly experienced people in my entering class. I've weathered through! Wow, and I'm almost done.

I'm feeling particularly reflective after writing a brief statement for a scholarship application. Ok, don't know if my social work pals actually check my blog regularly (hello, are you reading this?), but I'm going to stick my short essay here, because I wrote it and it captures my thoughts. And its my blog and I'll post if I want to.

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My first year of study in the Masters of Social Work program has overwhelmed me with techniques for competent practice, tales of the tribulations in the field, practice in forming a research proposal, and a grasp of the social work vocabulary that so intimidated me when I first arrived in Berkeley. My previous experience in AmeriCorps mentoring and tutoring a caseload of middle-schoolers gave me the ideal and desire to work with children and families, and my MSW studies have provided me the path and method for doing so. As a Title IV-E recipient, I have weathered looks of sympathy and shock, even pity, but knowing that I want to serve in an area of critical need, I look forward to a year of challenges and learning in my second-year internship with Contra Costa’s Department of Employment and Human Services. I know that my education in social work will not “terminate” next year once I finally grasp a Master’s degree in my hands, but it has been – and continues to be – a good beginning.

Monday, May 01, 2006

SI SE PUEDE!

This morning I marched with classmates and throngs of thousands down Market Street today. I assembled with my social welfare buddies (we call ourselves the Get-a-long Gang) and we took the BART to the city. We wore our white shirts and followed other white shirts until we found a pot-banging throng milling down the street yelling and waving banners. It was a smallish crowd that was constantly redirected by the police, who came up running behind me wearing riot gear and bearing billy clubs. I must have been surprised at least twice when bumped from behind by running police officers. It was quite terrifying, too, to see see them route marchers and think of how close we could be to bodily harm. Imagine the crash of a fist or the whack of a club. I want to keep my bones whole! No pain, no pain.

Arms linked to stay together, we finally merged with the main marchers starting at Pier One. This group matched more of what I was expecting: it was much bigger and more Latino. With this critical mass filling up Market, the Get-a-long Gang crept along with viscous languidness, animated most by shouts of

El pueblo unido,
Jamas sera vencido!


and

Si se puede!


We read the banners around us, images of Che flying on red flags. And saw all the babies and children that accompanied their parents, marching, marching, marching.

When we finally made our way out of the crowd, preparing to head back to Berkeley, when we were stopped by a man with a microphone and recorder. He asked us for a sound bite for NPR, and my friends encouraged me to speak.

I told him that the day before I was walking with my friend through Berkeley's Elmwood neighborhood. We stopped to admire some California poppies in yard when a woman stepped out of the house. She asked us what language we were speaking. We looked at each other quizically and replied, "English." She went on to question my friend's accent and would not believe that she was from LA. She moved on to me, complimenting my English, though my accent was still highly obvious. She chided Chinese people for their reserve and unemotionalness, and complimented my "good breeding" for making me unlike them. And on she went with a "benevolent" diatribe on the scarcity of female students, the wonder of our being able to study when our parents and grandparents had not the opportunity, the "bubble" that we lived in as students that kept us from recognizing that we were at war, those hippies that her sons were a generation short of becoming because we are paying for their medical bills, the military accomplishments of her husband as opposed to her domestic ones, and on and on. She would not stop, yet delivered as a "sermon on the mount," as she finally called it, we couldn't very well get away. And I seethed over it. Finally, slinking away to pop back into our "bubble," I did seethe over. She had made me so angry, hurt me so deeply, struck at tender heart of what has troubled me much this year. She questioned my identity as an American for being Asian. As if my appearance told the whole story. And though I told myself rationally that she was an old woman, that there really wasn't much I could have done in that situation, what she said still wounded me more than I could cognitively or emotionally understand.

So in deciding whether to paticipate in Monday's protest, I jumped off the fence. And, God bless them, my friends came with me. I marched for the people of this country. Todos Immigrantes! Our right to belong here. Our right to be both American and not belong to dominant white culture. To be seen as people, not criminals or work thieves. A decent life, free from abject need and bigotted treatment. I marched for me, for what I want this country to be, and for that paternalistic old white lady.

This is what I told the NPR reporter. Maybe in not so many words or in such detail, but essentially so. Viva America Nuevo!

Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Good day, sunshine!

I have two more weeks of school. Three more presentations to make. Three more final papers to write. One evaluation to complete. At the moment I should be completing a peer review. But the end is in sight and I can't resist a taste of freedom. Today, the sun finally showed its face and evaporated the damper of a winter of rain. One of my friends had a birthday party, a bar-b-que with tofurkey sausages and a chocolate fountain. We ate. We talked. We laughed. We played ping-pong (you know you are having a good day when you get to play ping pong). And it was good, this taste of summer.

This is what my summer will be: a casting off of responsibility, if only for a shortwhile. I've decided not to continue working at my current researcher position. I'm not going to take Chinese class as I had intended. I am going to do 3 things:
- Take a camping trip to Glacier National Park in Montana;
- Go home to Houston, buy a car, and do a half-national road trip back to California;
- And...go to Peru, Guatemala, Belize, and Mexico!

It is heedless of professional responsibilities, fiscally impractical, but one taste of summer is not enough. I want to eat the whole pie! I will learn to be responsible again in August. Promise.

Sunday, April 16, 2006

Berkeley: a paralysis of good intentions?

I attend a conference on the future of Asian American studies--yes, another conference!--yesterday, and my mind and heart ate well on workshops speeches that enaged the experience and future of Asian and Pacific Islanders. The conference itself was about the bleak outlook of Asian American Studies at Berkeley, where enrollment is flagging, despite its origins in the 70s during hard-fought-for struggles among students for Ethnic Studies programs. I got to attend workshops about Pacific Islanders and the conflict around their inclusion and exclusion from the label "API." Another workshop was about the domestic violence: its expression in Asian famililies and the services provided for them. (As a testament to the degree that API don't want to deal with DV, I was the only attendee at this workshop aside from conference volunteers.) The final workshop I attended was a panel of Korean adoptees talking about experiences growing up and the bumpy roads along their development of their racial identities. I can hardly imagine my own conflict over what it means to be Chinese/Asian American had it been overlayed with no understanding or connection to the culture for which I was ridiculed by classmates. These syposiums and conferences, that expose me to the conversations and revolutions happening outside the School of Social Welfare, give me the social and cultural consciousness to continue as a social worker.
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A glimpse of Berkeley! I walking with a friend down Shattuck when a well-dressed, middle-aged man racing down the street past us. Behind, we heard a homeless man yelling at the top of his lungs, "HEY!" We thought, maybe someone had offended someone, but the homeless man kept yelling, saying, "HEY! YOU DROPPED YOUR CELL PHONE!" And the well-dressed man kept sprinting away, not paying any mind to the calls for his attention. The homeless guy was getting understandably frustrated, saying, "Well, I guess you don't want it that bad. Maybe I should throw it in the street." I was finally able to flag the well-dressed man and ask him if he was missing his cell phone. Only then did he acknowledge the homeless gentleman waving a phone in the air, who chided the upper middle class for "not taking the time to f*ching listen." I have to say that I agree. This is Berkeley: the upper class streamlining the streets, the locals maintaining the town's integrity not without a chip on its shoulder. Our local, celebrity writer Michael Chabon says it well in his blog essay. I don't know if I agree with the enraptured abandon he has for B-town, but his descriptions of the setting, the people, and the atmosphere are dead on.

Thursday, April 13, 2006

Yummy yummy yummy, I've got love in my tummy!

Tonght I saw two documentaries by filmmaker Kim Longinotto: Dream Girls and The Good Wife of Tokyo, brief glimpses in the lives of Japanese women. Dream Girls follows performers of the Takarazuka Revue and students at the Takarazuka school where girls learn to dance and sing to become temporary performance stars. The dances choose between playing women or men, the male performers being allowed freedom and authority for their brief time in Takarazuka. But most women eventually give up their careers and education to follow their cultural calling to be married by age 25.

The Good Wife of Tokyo was a look at a Japanese performance artist's mother, who find exigency and purpose as a woman through her role as a spiritual leader for a religion called the House of Development. Begun as a melding of Shintoism, Buddhism, and Christianity, the House of Development has come to serve mostly middle-aged women as a support group for them. The have face conflict over their societal obligations to their husbands and mothers-in-law and their desires to have freedom and be independent. It made a nice follow-up to the previous film, to see the result of women’s following the ideals of Japanese society and finding methods for coping. I feel so sorry for the women, living their lives always in the shadow of their potential, but in the context of their culture they are successful. Ai.

But the daughter, the performing artist, is in a band called Frank Chicken, which is composed of 3 women total. They sing and dance in early 90s fashion, in costumes to match. They sang Yummy, Yummy, Yummy, I Got Love in My Tummy with huge fanny-pack sized lips pasted on their stomachs. They also sang a song about the Rockefeller building, where the ghost of Rockefeller visits his building and sees that it is owned by Japanese business men. He mistakes them for Native Americans and wonders how they came to own his building when they were conquered.

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Conferences: Motivating versus Discouraging Crossroads of Information

Last Thursday I attended a symposium on overturning Proposition 209, a proposition that eliminated affirmative action in California, and was stirred with the boldface calls to action. I heard lawyers, professors, and community activists explain litigative and theoretical approaches for taking down a racist initiative that has had real detrimental effects for minority businesses and educational opportunities. They spoke of the problems that disrupted unity among the ACLU when Prop 209 first passed and the lessons they have since learned. For 2008! During the next presidential election there is hope for change! We can win it – panelists and speakers spoke with passion and fervor for social justice and did not shy away from decrying racist policies and practices.

My feelings of energy and activism were not soon after doused by a conference for Title IV-E students, future CPS workers. I sat through a series of monotone speeches about the problems that plagued a failed system we were soon to join as child welfare workers. The disruptive life that we would soon be compelled to offer to foster children. The disregard for siblings and families that we would soon be powerless to prevent. We heard from foster kids who recounted their experiences, prompted by a moderator who asked them to tell their life stories to a room full of future social workers, the sometimes bad guys of those stories. Our future is cast in insensitivity, futility, and exhaustion. Great. Am I in the wrong line of work? But if anything, it got me thinking about foster kids and the possibility of being a foster parent sometime in the future. Not easy by any means, but made me wonder if to help one kid or a sibling group with real care was the way the make a difference in child welfare.

Feeling torn from the reason I entered this profession. Better when out of the classroom and into the field?

Sunday, April 02, 2006

what circle of hades are we in anyway?

I was just doing some gardening to get some House Improvement hours in for my coop (I have to do 4 over the whole semester). So I did some weeding, some hedge pruning, and--this is rich--cutting grass with hedge clippers. There is a reason humans invented lawn mowers, but having none, our coop must improvise. It was like I was giving our sidewalk patch of grass a bad haircut. First I snipped at it, then I used a rake to comb out the clippings, leaving mangled looking clumps of grass. When the garden manager asked me to cut the grass with the sheers I wasn't sure if he was joking. But, imagining myself in some absurdist performance piece, I cut the grass with big scissors. What offense did I commit to warrant this? Some bad karma there.

So not surprisingly, I've decided to not live in the coops next year. Not just funky hierarchy, but I want my own space, my own kitchen, the freedom to socialize when I feel like it and to be a guilt-free hermit when I want to be. Looking for a place to live though...no easy task. Updates on the horizon.

Tuesday, March 28, 2006

From the Redwood Forest to the Gulf Stream waters




I just returned from the most splendid of vacations over my Spring Break. I went with some friends to stay in a cabin by the Russian River. Blessed with sunshine, we did a day of hiking in Armstrong State Park. The random tendon/ muscles in our legs screamed and our feet whined in protest, but we trudged on through mud and rocks to see beautiful views, mossy trees, and numerous javelina traps. Ok, maybe not javelinas, but forest pigs. Like in Princess Mononoke! Ok, maybe not gigantic god-pigs either.

We also ate extremely well, cooking fantastic dinners each evening and glorious breakfasts. Culinary Therapy. Strangely, the trip turned into a social work retreat in a way, with all of group processing, checking in, and assessing each other throughout, half in jest and half in seriousness. Yet, the formality of structured discussions did create a space for us to talk about how we got along with each other and process our various experiences in social work school so far. Highly beneficial. Highly strengths-based.

Afterwards we also visited an aunt of one of my friends and saw her children and horses. We watched a movie with her family and played air hockey, pingpong, and cards. So welcoming and warm.

If anyone should need an intervention for relaxation and pleasantry, I will refer you to the Russian River.

Tuesday, March 21, 2006

You don't know me! I don't know you!

I was walking home today and talking on the phone with a friend. Granted, I guess it is rude to walk around in public while talking on the phone, but I walked by guy ranting to entertain his friends and encountered another incident that makes me think Berkeley is no haven from racism. This guy, perhaps homeless, was mouthing off about how he had to live under the white man until he was seventeen, then seeing me added that the Japanese need to get off the phone. Japanese! Do I look Japanese? If you can't tell the difference between a Korean and Chinese person then don't make assumptions. Grr, I was seething afterwards. When these things happen I also get crazy mad at myself for not starting a scene and mouthing back. Do I perpetuate the stereotype of submissive Asians by not talking back? But you know, that is not me. I don't want live in a world where racial outbursts result in streetfights and neither do I want to be such an instigator. And I don't need to be the object of my anger either.

Why won't Spring Break just arrive already?